Daddy Issues....

Daddy Issues....

I've been really struggling with my dad lately. We can never talk without getting into an all-out fight. I now avoid him and never stop complaining about him. My mom is sick and tired of us fighting but I don't know what to do. He refuses to think he isn't perfect and when ever you challenge that he will BLOW UP. There's nothing I can do to talk to him without him totally crushing me....

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XxlunargirlxX
Like everybody else, I suggest giving him some time. Then, talk to him about it. Don't challenge him or say anything like, "You're not perfect," even though he isn't. After talking to him about it, give him a hug and ask him what's going on in life. Changing the subject is good after this, even though you should talk to him about it.
XxlunargirlxX
I also suggest you help him with chores, like doing the dishes, or give him a massage.
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Elleyd
Ok thank you
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on August 30, 2014
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on August 29, 2014
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on August 29, 2014
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Ravenclaw3243
Give him time...let him be alone, away from everything, it should get rid of all the weight.
on July 26, 2014
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FallingRozePetals
I just had mommy issue. About internet
on July 04, 2014
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Nightcat
I'm sorry do you know what started all the blowing up more lately? (Sorry couldn't think of a better word for it I know it's not funny)
Nightcat
....maybe leave him alone for a bit (he's probably stressed out with trying to earn money for two people) not great advice sorry
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Elleyd
That's a big part of it
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on July 07, 2014
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Nightcat
Hmmm. Maybe it's just money troubles.
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on July 07, 2014
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Elleyd
It's finances and work and me and my mom and other crap the house and all this random crap that just never ceases to stop bothering him.... He's never been the happiest guy but it got really bad 4 yrs ago when my mom quit her job and started her own company....
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on July 07, 2014
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Nightcat
*virtual hug* I'm really sorry. I know it's hard dealing with parents. All things are possible with God though. (Ok i'll stop preaching sorry)
Do you think it's his work? When did this start?
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on July 06, 2014
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Elleyd
Ok, but I have listened; I have talked; I have done everything I can that I can think of but nothing works!
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on July 06, 2014
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Nightcat
One of the youth leaders from my church is leaving and he's like a big brother to me surprisingly I cried (I don't cry where people can see if I can help it)
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on July 06, 2014
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Nightcat
As in he needs peace, as in internally. If you're feeling brave, go and ask him why he's angry. Whatever he says, if he blames you or your mum, if he shouts, if he yells and rants, just listen.
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on July 06, 2014
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Elleyd
He's not religious and he's the one breaking the peace.
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on July 06, 2014
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Nightcat
He needs peace.
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on July 06, 2014
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Nightcat
maybe he needs a reminder of how much people value him. Including God. (Ok I'm not bible bashing) My uncle used to be a horrible grumpy dad and always yelling at his kids. He became a Christian and he's nicer now, quieter, likes my brother. Is this just his work or what?
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on July 06, 2014
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Elleyd
(No I need this) I haven't seenhim truly happy for a while. And I don't mean just laughing at a joke, I mean really happy and carefree.
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on July 06, 2014
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Nightcat
Sorry. When was the last time you saw him happy? Or not angry at least. (If this is bad for you tell me to piss off)
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on July 06, 2014
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Elleyd
He likes things that don't involve me.
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on July 06, 2014
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Nightcat
Nothing? Not food, sleep, telly? That's most of what makes my dad happy -_-
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on July 05, 2014
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Elleyd
nothing -_- wel at least nothing involving me or my mom in general
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on July 05, 2014
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Nightcat
What kind of stuff makes him happy?
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on July 04, 2014
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Elleyd
i can't really leave him alone cuz he's my father and we live in the same house
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on July 04, 2014
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on May 04, 2014
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Elleyd
his work.... theres a lot of stress in the house right now cuz my moms business isnt producing money and my dad has a ton of work...
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on May 04, 2014
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rue2160
look him in the eyes and say I love you and I no longer want to fight.
rue2160
I felt exactly the same way honey.
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Elleyd
ok
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on July 15, 2014
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rue2160
Ohh I get it ^o^ any way just don't try to hard some things take time. Nothing heals over time it just make things easier.
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on July 15, 2014
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Elleyd
I was countering your sentiment sorry -_-
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on July 15, 2014
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rue2160
What? Material?
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on July 15, 2014
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Elleyd
depends on the size and what materials you have
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on July 15, 2014
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rue2160
Just try to fade into the background. If it's not easy give it another try do what makes you happy until he is happy and then come back feeling better. But don't lose hope every mess can be wiped up
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on July 15, 2014
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Elleyd
I see
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on July 15, 2014
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rue2160
Well things weren't that out of hand with me and my dad just slow down a bit I think.
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on July 15, 2014
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Elleyd
Well I tried to talk and so did my mom and we did exactly what you said then my dad told me he was done talking to me and stormed out of the room
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on July 15, 2014
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rue2160
We are doing a lot better. and you just all need to keep calm in that talk. All families have ups and down so if and when you talk don't expect things to be perfect
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on July 15, 2014
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Elleyd
what happened?
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on July 15, 2014
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rue2160
Me and my family had a long talk lead by my mom.
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on July 15, 2014
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Elleyd
well what did you do?
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on July 15, 2014
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rue2160
Just do what he says. If your a good girl, he will have nothing to blame you for. I had the same issues trust me. It's what my mom told me to do. Good luck. ❤️
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Elleyd
But I am a good kid but he expects me to be perfect which is impossible but that's what he expects...
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on July 13, 2014
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rue2160
I know but someone has to say it.
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Elleyd
:3
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on July 08, 2014
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on July 08, 2014
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rue2160
im sorry..
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Elleyd
not your fault
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on July 04, 2014
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Elleyd
I've tried and that just makes him angrier.
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on May 03, 2014
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TankBerserk
Tell your mom. If he is doing this he is just being a concieted little jerk.
TankBerserk
i am sorry
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Elleyd
not ur fault
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on July 04, 2014
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Elleyd
Well, I guess he's just being a conceited little jerk
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on May 03, 2014
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