I'm scared of losing my virginity with my boyfriend & afraid that he's lying about the way I look just so I can lose it to him
So me & my boyfriend been dating for a year and 7 months. He's a virgin & I am too. I'm scared of losing my virginity because I heard that it hurts really bad & That its A myth that all girls bleed. I don't wanna be embarrassed while I'm having sex with him. I also wonder if he really likes me because his friends date girls for a very long time it all depends when the girl decides to give it up & Then they leave them. He says that he "loves me" & that my body is a turn on because I have thick thighs , big butt & A tiny waist. I feel like if I give him what he Wants he'll leave me & Im really starting to grow feelings towards him & I don't want to lose my virginity to someone who just wants to hit it & quit it..
Please help! I don't wanna make a stupid mistake!
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You can have sex whenever you feel that your redy, if you feel your redy then go for it. But if your not,your BF should respect your opinion. And sex doesn't hert that bad,so don't worry about it.
on September 29, 2015
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Girl let me tell you your better then a smash and pass a hit and quit it you are better then that and if he is about that you dont need him at all let him go. Me and my boyfriend been a couple for a year and some n months but he dont make me do things i dont wanna do he dont even ask about sex. Yes he talkes about my big ass boody and my hips and my big ass chest and my tiny waist but nothing more then that so if he tells you "you got to do it" you dont GOT to do nothing for nobody See More▼ if you dont mean the world to him he dont need to take it cause he anit the right one AT ALL. and im 16 and still got mine and i am very happy with it:D
on May 18, 2014
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F?!# no!!!!!!! If your 15 you're underage!!!!!!! 16 is the legal age for sex and I know you posted this ages ago but yeah DON'T DO IT if he loves you he'll wait
on March 15, 2014
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NNNNOOOOOOOOOO!!!!!!!! IF HE REALLY LOVES U HE WILL RESPECT UR DECISION NO MATTER WAT!! & UR YOUNG. U SHOULD WAIT TILL UR MARRIED. & IT DOES HURT & IT BLEEDS CAUSE NOTHINGS BEEN IN THEIR BEFORE. & THINK BOUT THE CONSEQUENCES. AIDS, TEENAGE PREGNANCY. I MEAN DO U REALLY WANT TO GIVE UP UR LIFE??? UV STILL GOT YEARS OF UR LIFE 2 GO. & WAT IF U GET PREGNANT HE GETS SCARED & BREAKS UP WITH U. THE BABY WILL NEED 2 A FATHER & U THE SUPPORT. THINK BOUT UR PARENTS, FRIENDS & U WILL LOSE See More▼ UR RESPECT. IN SHORT U MIGHT BE LABELED AS A SLUT, OR SEX CRAVED 2 HAV IT THAT YOUNG SOO I HOPE THIS HELPS U. EVEN IF HE BREAKS UP WITH U CAUSE U SAID NO THAT OBVIOUSLY MEANS HE DIDNT REALLY LOVE U. HE JUST WANTED SOME ASS. SOO AS I KEEP SAYING THEIR ARE OTHER FISH IN THE SEA.
on October 20, 2013
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I read down in one of the earlier answers that your fifteen. Don't you think that's a little young? I get that you've been together a long time, and that you do care about each other, but your virginity is a big deal. I'm not saying to not go for it, but think about a few things first
1. Do you really want to give it up?
If your not sure, chances are you don't want to.
2. Does he care about you enough to stay if something were to happen?
If you were to get pregnant, would See More▼ he stay? Would he care? Because one the slim chance you do get pregnant, the baby will need a father.
1. Do you really want to give it up?
If your not sure, chances are you don't want to.
2. Does he care about you enough to stay if something were to happen?
If you were to get pregnant, would See More▼ he stay? Would he care? Because one the slim chance you do get pregnant, the baby will need a father.
So, basically, if you are sure you want to, and you have a "game plan" worked out with him, and you do care about each other, then maybe you should consider it. But remember, this is a once in a life time thing. It's not like a hair cut, temporary and you can have it back over time, it's permanent. If your not comfortable with it, then don't. Don't get pressured See More▼ into doing something you don't want to.
If you do decide to, then use protection. Better safe than sorry!
Best of luck,
Beatrice
If you do decide to, then use protection. Better safe than sorry!
Best of luck,
Beatrice
on September 10, 2013
on September 10, 2013
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When a girl bleeds after or during losing your virginity that means the cherry has broke. It does not always happen. Your cherry can break riding a bike or horse. Some times it doesn't break at all. Most of time its not noticeable amount of blood if it does break. As for pain, it's more of an uncomfortable feeling. But first you need to think about yourself, don't think about him. Think about yourself because losing your virginity is suppose to be a beautiful thing. If you are See More▼ not ready do not do it. If you fear him leaving you don't do it. Save your virginity. The time will come and you will know when that is.
If he can't wait than he is not mature enough to be dating. And thats good if your not ready than that's all that matters.
on September 11, 2013
Thanks For your advice I understand that I have to do it for me its all up to me if I want to or not so i'll just wait & If he's not willing to wait until im ready than Im just going to be single I dont want to be Pressured into something i feel uncomfortable.
on September 11, 2013
Thanks For your advice I understand that I have to do it for me its all up to me if I want to or not so i'll just wait & If he's not willing to wait until im ready than Im just going to be single I dont want to be Pressured into something i feel uncomfortable.
on September 11, 2013
Thanks For your advice I understand that I have to do it for me its all up to me if I want to or not so i'll just wait & If he's not willing to wait until im ready than Im just going to be single I dont want to be Pressured into something i feel uncomfortable.
on September 11, 2013
Thanks For your advice I understand that I have to do it for me its all up to me if I want to or not so i'll just wait & If he's not willing to wait until im ready than Im just going to be single I dont want to be Pressured into something i feel uncomfortable.
on September 11, 2013
on September 10, 2013
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i'm only 12, so maybe not the best person for advice but stay a virgin till he shows he's commited properly and that he is the right one, you don't want to end up withan unwanted child because the pill didn't work, right? Or you're on your own. and not too young, how old are you?
on September 10, 2013