My friend is rude...

My Friend, let's call her Eli, has been pretty rude and caused quite a few fights. The main one I want to address it that she doesn't care about how I feel. (As in when I'm sad or mad about something, she laughs at me for it.) Eli has also manipulated me and kept pulling me away from my other friends, let's call them Rhett and Mitchell. They are my best friends and she keeps pulling me away from my other friends too. Also when I ask her to stop talking about something she tells me to get over it. What should I do?

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EmeraldDragonfly
Tell an adult. Explain your situation, and ask for advice. They may say get new friends. My advice? Avoid Eli for a few days, or until she realizes that you don’t want to be around her when she misbehaves. She is old enough to learn, and you shouldn’t be suffering because of her. Good luck!
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Helpless
Your friend is a dick.
Drop her.
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Kaleidoscope
I don't think this is a healthy friendship. If you haven't already confronted her, you probably should. If she still doesn't make an effort to change, I think you need to get her out of your life. I know that it's really hard to say goodbye to a friend. But you won't be happy if you continue to be friends with someone like that.
TooMuchQuestions
Thanks for the advice. I'll say goodbye to her, but I need to get contact with her parents somehow, just don't know how
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Kaleidoscope
Alright
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TooMuchQuestions
@Euphoria I'm going to move into PM's with this
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Kaleidoscope
It's the counselor's job to navigate personal situations like that. They went through years of education and training. And her parents are responsible for her. If anyone can help her, it's them. The only reason why you shouldn't inform her parents is if they're abusive.
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TooMuchQuestions
@Euphoria but one more thing, I'm scared about how she'll react.. It is pretty personal to her
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TooMuchQuestions
Got it covered *thumbs up*
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Kaleidoscope
Np!! Feel free to pm me if you ever need someone to talk to.
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TooMuchQuestions
@Euphoria anyways, thank you so much
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Kaleidoscope
Yeah, they're really tricky to navigate. Everyone meets toxic people at some point in their life.
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TooMuchQuestions
@Euphoria thanks for your help. I'll tell. I was just so stuck I never knew what to do. I'm new to toxic friendships lol
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Kaleidoscope
Telling a counselor that can contact her parents is a really good idea.
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TooMuchQuestions
@Euphoria okay I will. But is telling my counselor a good idea? It scares me more talking to a teacher about it for some reason
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Kaleidoscope
If you go to the same school, you could tell a teacher. They would be obligated to tell her parents.
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TooMuchQuestions
Thanks for your reply. I have confronted her and tried to get some advice from my best friends too. She has done other things which makes me very concerned for her health and safety
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Kaleidoscope
You need to take care of yourself before you can take care of anyone else. From what you've described, she's a toxic person for you. If you're very concerned about her safety, the best thing is to tell her parents.
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Mataways
If you have a rude friend, don't be friends with them. They could (notice "could" ), make you rude too.
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falsetthoes
this is an extremely toxic friendship and it would be best to drop them as a friend.

i understand this isn't the easiest to do and it can take a lot of time but confronting them and saying "look you're making me unhappy and i don't think this friendship is working out" or something along those lines will make the process work much faster
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tappdancing7860
Try to stay away from Eli as she is ruining your other friendships and tell ur two best friends about what's going on so they know. They might even know what else to do.
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