Is this abuse?

I generally don’t know if this is bc I’ve just realize how bad I feel around my mom, but I legit don’t know so.
My mom always ignores me and my sister all the time, there have been days where she hasn’t come out of her room, and when she comes out of her room she complains and yells and goes right back into her room again. When she’s angry she threatens to smash someone into a wall and/or kill them, and she often lashes out on me and my sister. When it got really bad a few times and I hid she grabbed my face and screamed at me and I always feel cautious whenever I hear her or hear her door open. I know she has mental illness but I don’t see why that’s a reason for her to constantly belittle me all the time. She complains about us having no respect, complains about messes, and ruins my day a lot. Whenever we need to go somewhere or whatever she always makes excuses like getting little sleep or being sick. She constantly talks about finances and what we can/can’t afford. This is more than just discipline, we could literally be doing nothing wrong and she’d lash out. She drove me into depressions, she sometimes makes me wish I wasn’t alive, and I need to know what this feeling is and why I’m constantly afraid of her. Let me know. (If this isn’t abuse and if it’s just little things I’m sorry, I’m not trying to make abuse something that’s small and irrelevant, it is a horrible thing, and I don’t want to belittle it. I just don’t know what to do and what to call this)

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Hikari_Chan
Well i understand. It is abuse i guess but a lot of this happens in our house too many times (except the lashes thing) and i don't know myself. No one knows better than you yourself. But by what you have said it is abuse but again you mentioned that your mother has a mental illness so maybe it is not totally her fault. Talk to any older people in your family and if this continues i suggest to move on to your grand parent's or any other relative's house. But again, i may not be See More▼
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Hanuel
Honestly I’m not an expert but I would consider it as so. There’s many types of abuse like sexual abuse, physical abuse, verbal abuse and so on. From what I’ve heard it seems like she does a lot of physical and verbal abuse, especially if it drove you into depression. If she threatens to kill someone I definitely think that is abuse no matter what. Threats of that extremity are always considered as abuse. I found this online and idk if it will help or not but “Domestic abuse often See More▼
Hanuel
I found this too if it helps
“Signs to recognize domestic abuse
Do you:

feel afraid of your this person most of the time?
avoid certain topics out of fear of angering this person? See More▼
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Hanuel
Does this person:

have a bad and unpredictable temper?
hurt you, or threaten to hurt or kill you?
threaten to take your family or harm them?
threaten to commit suicide because of you? See More▼
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gnocchi
yes.
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Dowogami_Is_In_Love
I think so... parents really shouldn't be hurting theirchildren like that. I've only been hurt like that once...
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Batim17
I think it is and my mom doesn’t do that to me
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