Can I be too kind and generous and is it possible that I may let people take advantage of me?

Can I be too kind and generous and is it possible that I may let people take advantage of me?

I have no clue on what to say but to say that I feel like I'm to nice and Sensitive because I have to deal with Rude people and tend to get upset.

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AlterEgo
Well, how do people take advantage of you? That matters in learning how to solve the problem.
It's not bad to be kind and generous, but don't be an omega and let people walk all over you. Really, you can be kind and still stick up for yourself! Just firmly say no- it's not rude, but rather respectful to both you and the other person.
Wolfhumanlover
I don't know I kinda hate that and when I did I got screamed at and a ton of colorful words
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miss.smol.bean
No prob!
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on April 28, 2015
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AlterEgo
No problem.
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on April 28, 2015
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Wolfhumanlover
Thanks @Mr.Nanners , @FlareBoost , @Glowing_PurpleFlower03 , @Jenniej , and @KatyKazooo
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AlterEgo
Good.
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Wolfhumanlover
I have to babysit his sister though and I'd never date him again and even if he kept asking I can't taken
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AlterEgo
You said he would keep asking you out, so don't go back. I guess try to stop hanging around him.
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Wolfhumanlover
I did break up with him
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AlterEgo
I get not telling his parents or teachers, but... If he doesn't want to change to be nice, if he is just a jack@$$ by nature, you can't change him. Only he can change him. I would break up with him quite hard if I were you because maybe then your climate change would rock him hard enough to hint that what he does is not okay.
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Wolfhumanlover
To make him nicer
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Wolfhumanlover
I am not talking to his parents they scare me teachers and that someone can't work on him
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AlterEgo
Threats of any kind are not okay. Sounds like an abusive relationship if he keeps getting together than breaking up with you. If he blames you, perhaps he is insecure. But the threats make me want to suggest telling someone who has power over him, like a teacher or parent or someone, even if that really is lame advice.
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Wolfhumanlover
Not really he really hate me he threatens me and asks me out then breaks up with me and blames me for everything
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AlterEgo
Then it's his problem, really. If he hasn't a valid reason for disliking you, you shouldn't let it affect you. If he is the only one who steps on you, perhaps it is because you think he hates you, therefore you feel you need to let him like you? Either way, some people just don't get along. You two may be like that. He may just hate you for no reason, as previously See More▼
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Wolfhumanlover
Jaren he hate me always has
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AlterEgo
Then who yelled at you? How to deal with things depends on who you are taking to as well. If it is a superior person, most of the time it is hard to get out of something at all, but if you are to try than do it kindly. If it is someone equal to or under you, they can't really walk over you unless you let them. Even so, it doesn't hurt to be courteous, which I'm See More▼
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Marvele
Like all the other posts here you can't be too kind or generous, but I think that you need to be firm as well. If you let people walk all over you for the sake of being nice then it just ends up making you depressed. I think there is a fineline between just being forgiving and kind and getting walked all over.
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Jenniej
Be fit.If you tell me the way they take advantages,I can you an answer.
Wolfhumanlover
In every way they possibly can 1 of them is trying to get forgiveness when they cheat lol not happening that is when we through exes!
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Wolfhumanlover
I say trying to get forgiveness when they cheat lol not happening that is when we through exes!
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on April 29, 2015
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Jenniej
Stop forgiving them.Show that you could be strict too!
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Mr.Nanners
No. not in the slightest
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miss.smol.bean
It's ok that you are too nice and generous, but try to not let people take advantage of you ALL the time. Be serious at some point to them.
Wolfhumanlover
I can't I-I just can't
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miss.smol.bean
I'm the same way, but sometimes if I notice then I start being serious. Trust me, if you let it all go it'll feel great.
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Wolfhumanlover
Please I need an answer I don't know and I'm really sad
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